Extroversion Problems

Okay followers, since I’m tired, I must ask before I’m off to bed. What’s your MBTI?

I don’t think they do exist, actually. I went to the public library today to see if I could dig anything up on extroverts at all. Turns out that the only book there is is Quiet. Not that that’s a problem or anything, it’s just that—after doing a bit more digging with MBTI in general—everything was about introverts. And that’s not fair to us; we’re people too. Why don’t we get our own books?

This is yet another reason I need help finding out positive information about extroverts.

ramember:

when people post things about introverts

and make them out to be SO SPECIAL and have SUCH A HARD TIME

and then people reblog like: OMG FINALLY SOMEONE UNDERSTANDS!111!!!!

… 

Guess what

Being an extrovert is NOT ANY EASIER THAN BEING AN INTROVERT

I am pretty bored of seeing posts with introverts constantly being like NO ONE UNDERSTANDS MY INTROVERSION. Well I feel the same way about my extroversion.

Sometimes when I am alone for too long, it sucks! It sucks having to depend on other people to gather energy! Because I feel rude constantly barraging people to hang out and converse with! I wish I could gain energy from being alone, but I NEED to socialise and that can be a very draining thing to worry about. I have had anxiety attacks from needing to be around people so much, but have been too embarrassed to try and bother people for attention.

I also have heaps of introverted friends so I understand what they prefer. I don’t get offended when they tell me they just want to be alone. I see so many posts where extroverts are made out to be these horrible bad guys who just won’t stop asking questions and are constantly trying to include you in things and are always partying and being loud. SO RUDE.

Actually, just because I prefer to socialise and gain energy from social situations. Doesn’t mean I have to be socialising 24/7. Guess what, I like taking walks by myself and reading books alone too - SHOCK HORROR

SO to all the introverts out there! Try and take better care of your extroverts. Just because we recharge our batteries in different social situations, that doesn’t mean that we are completely different.

Maybe not exactly the way I would had phrased it, but this is legitimately how I—and most other extroverts on tumblr—feel.

We’re trying to understand you. Please try to understand us.

I’m a very friendly extrovert, but people often get turned off because I’m “too intense.” I’m also extremely open, and people are appalled at me when I want to chat religion, sex or politics because I believe they’re critical parts of the individual human experience. I want to have people to hang out with and do fun, spontaneous things- fiancee and most preexisting friends are introverts- but new people never seem fond of me. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my friends and my wife-to-be, but I need more excitement than they do, and it feels unfair to wrangle them into things I enjoy doing but that they may not.
I love everybody, but not everybody loves me. I feel like most people can barely tolerate me.

Socially-savvy help plox?

From Lolphosphorus http://lolphosphorus.tumblr.com/

Ahh, first off, I’m sorry you’ve got that sort of trouble :c I suppose that it sounds like you could do a mix of a few things, if I think I understand your situation as well as I think I do. You could always try to tone it down a bit, as offensive as that sounds; it’s quite possible that the new people you meet are simply overwhelmed by your personality, but at the same time, you shouldn’t need to retreat so much that there’s not much of a personality to you. You can talk to your introverted friends a bit; based off of what I know about introverts (most of my friends and my girlfriend) is that they do enjoy communication, just not in huge groups, and not for a very long amount of time the way extroverts are used to doing. It still sounds as if you simply need someone to listen to you, however… Have you tried random chat websites? It may not be a strong build to a friendship in most cases, but you can talk to people who do enjoy to talk back (or troll, in the case of Omegle).

I hope this was of some sort of help to you.

—Sarah

Given the amazing spread of that “Care for Introverts” image I posted across Tumblr, I had to think about the fact that so many folks seemed to identify with what was said there. As someone who is basically extroverted (with some decidedly introvert quirks) it occurred to me that the flipside of introversion seems self-evident because outgoing, extroverted people kind of demand you figure out how to deal with them as you go along. Still, I figured it couldn’t hurt to make a few notes in the style of “How To Care For Introverts” for the other half of this particular human interaction equation…

• Respect their need to share, to ‘talk it out.’ They get their energy from other people.
• Just as with introverts, never embarrass them in public. If you do embarrass them in public, go along as much as is reasonable if they play it off like a joke.
• Don’t be surprised if they dive into a new situation headfirst. Don’t freak out either if they flounder a little. They’ll find their way.
• Extroverts blurt. It’s the nature of the beast. Most try to leaven it with charm, but try to be patient when they don’t.
• Expect interruptions that may seem rude, to some. Most of the time, they mean well.
• Build surprise into your lives together. Most extroverts love the thrill of not knowing what’s up - as long as it’s positive.
• Be prepared for what looks like ADD. The organically outgoing among us feed off the environment around them. They are often the best multi-taskers around, so understand that they are often paying much more attention to you than you think they are.
• A flashover temper goes with the extroverted personality. The bad thing is it can look like a much more severe storm than it is. The good thing is it’s over quickly.
• Many extroverts live for the intuitive leap. They reach for it. If teaching an extrovert something new, have patience with them jumping ahead of you.
• They will always have lots of friends. But most extroverts have a core of best friends, and their loyalty can be fierce and aggressive if they feel the need to defend those friends. As with so many aspects of the extroverted personality, you may have to be patient with this.
• They love compliments, but can usually see right through insincere flattery. Well-timed encouragement, though, can help an extrovert soar.
• Sometimes, it’s okay to just go along with the “show.” Consider it free entertainment.
• Respect their extroversion. Don’t try to pin them to your board or cage them. And do them a favor, if you are not yourself outgoing, extroverted - gently but persistently remind them to read something like this as often as possible. They probably will need the reminders.

From The Daily Huff: http://dailyhuff.com/