Extra-extravert problems.
I’m a very friendly extrovert, but people often get turned off because I’m “too intense.” I’m also extremely open, and people are appalled at me when I want to chat religion, sex or politics because I believe they’re critical parts of the individual human experience. I want to have people to hang out with and do fun, spontaneous things- fiancee and most preexisting friends are introverts- but new people never seem fond of me. Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love my friends and my wife-to-be, but I need more excitement than they do, and it feels unfair to wrangle them into things I enjoy doing but that they may not.
I love everybody, but not everybody loves me. I feel like most people can barely tolerate me.
Socially-savvy help plox?
From Lolphosphorus http://lolphosphorus.tumblr.com/
Ahh, first off, I’m sorry you’ve got that sort of trouble :c I suppose that it sounds like you could do a mix of a few things, if I think I understand your situation as well as I think I do. You could always try to tone it down a bit, as offensive as that sounds; it’s quite possible that the new people you meet are simply overwhelmed by your personality, but at the same time, you shouldn’t need to retreat so much that there’s not much of a personality to you. You can talk to your introverted friends a bit; based off of what I know about introverts (most of my friends and my girlfriend) is that they do enjoy communication, just not in huge groups, and not for a very long amount of time the way extroverts are used to doing. It still sounds as if you simply need someone to listen to you, however… Have you tried random chat websites? It may not be a strong build to a friendship in most cases, but you can talk to people who do enjoy to talk back (or troll, in the case of Omegle).
I hope this was of some sort of help to you.
—Sarah
